Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2019 Aspire Magazine Final - Page 68

So many times, people who have been living with boundaries falsely believe that if they stop putting up boundaries then people are going to walk all over them. That would mean going BACKWARDS in your development. I’m not talking about that. You know, there’s another direction you can go other than backwards. You can go FORWARD in your development and elevate to the next level beyond putting up boundaries for others, establishing your standards and own yourself. Now, here’s where most people get tripped up when I first teach this. They want to turn all their demands and boundaries into standards! Sorry, it doesn’t work that way. I say this because I care. Your need for control is really hurting you. I totally get it. I used to live in an ice tower myself with giant walls. And my life reflected that low level skill set. This is why you need to elevate your relationship skill set to live from standards and take off the “boundary” training-wheels that are holding you back from the life you really want, as the woman you know you can be. You can learn simple tools and strategies for how to be happy regardless of what goes on around you! If you’d like to come to a web class that I’m doing teaching these tools and strategies, click HERE. 68 | December 2018 / January 2019