Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2019 Aspire Magazine Final | Page 67

encounter thousands of people in my lifetime,
and I can’t control every moment of my life.
My standard is about ME.
It’s not demanding that anyone else change
to serve life up to me the way I want it.
Sometimes crappy things happen.
Sometimes people say stupid shit to you
that is just mean.
We can’t STOP them.
We can’t keep putting up boundaries telling
other people how THEY have to be in order
to be with us.
We need to OWN ourselves. Know our
standards. Live from those standards. And
if something happens that is below our
standards, trust ourselves to HANDLE IT!
Fix it or remove yourself.
Don’t ask the OTHER person to change. It’s
not their job to be who you need them to be
in this lifetime.
Boundaries are limits you put up out of fear
and try to demand that others honor those
limits and not cross them.
The problem with a boundary is that while
it might keep others out, it also keeps you
LOCKED IN.
Boundaries come from fear. Fear is holding
up those walls that you put up to protect you.
Standards come from courage. The
willingness to go through life fully present,
open and vulnerable, owning who you are,
knowing your worth and with the courage to
navigate what comes your way.
BOUNDARIES COME
FROM FEAR. FEAR IS
HOLDING UP THOSE
WALLS THAT YOU PUT
UP TO PROTECT YOU.
Decide for YOURSELF. Decide for YOU
what is OK with you and what is NOT. Standards are within you. They allow you
to have fully connected and vulnerable
relationships with the people in your life.
Can you FEEL the difference between
Standards and Boundaries? You can give unconditional love and become
unshakable!
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My standard is that I will not be in a
relationship where I get hit. That doesn’t
mean I will NEVER be hit. It means that if
something like that were to happen, I would
not stay in that relationship because it
dropped below my standard.
Standards are within YOU, they are about
YOU owning yourself and not being afraid
of whatever might come your way, because
you will handle it.