Would you do a quick little exercise with me? Make the first gesture that comes to mind for you when I say the word “Boundary”. YOU CANNOT ACTUALLY HAVE ANY OF THOSE THINGS AS LONG AS YOU HAVE YOUR BOUNDARIES UP. Your boundaries are your WALLS. Walls that you put up to PROTECT yourself. Which is better than having no walls and having everyone run all over you. But is that the ONLY option? Have you ever had an experience in life where you had NO walls up and someone did NOT run all over you? Boundaries keep people OUT. Boundaries PROTECT. Boundaries keep people AWAY. Boundaries create SEPARATION. And you want UNCONDITIONAL love in your marriage. And you want to be UNSHAKABLE with your partner. And you want your children to COME TO you when they need you. Ever experience the love of a grandparent or loving friend who just loved you and didn’t hurt you? Of course you have. You KNOW, deep within yourself that you can be in a relationship and NOT have walls up and be safe. So, if it’s possible, then that means that you do not actually REQUIRE boundaries to have a healthy and loving relationship that allows you to be your best and most authentic self. So, the question becomes…. How do we do that? 65 Did it look something like this? And you want more CONNECTION in your close relationships.