Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2019 Aspire Magazine Final - Page 64

This is a great step forward. Yes, you are correct. It gives a woman the power to even get used to the concept that it’s OK for her to establish a LINE to protect herself. Yes, you read that correctly. Boundaries are like training wheels when you learn to ride a bike. Our lack of worth as women is SO deep into our wiring that we ALL struggle at times even just owning that it is OK for us to say NO. That it’s OK for us to “disappoint” someone else. That it’s OK for us to “not please” someone. This is NOT so easy for many women to do. If it happens to come easy for you, that’s awesome. Please have compassion for the BILLIONS of women that struggle just to BELIEVE within themselves that they have WORTH and it’s ok for them to say what is OK and NOT OK for themselves. It’s actually deep in your blueprint. It’s ok. It’s just a fact. Deep down, your wiring most likely says that Dad or Mom or Husband or Teacher or Brother or Coach or anyone other than YOU have the power in most situations and you do NOT. So, at times, if you struggle to establish a boundary of what’s ok with you, don’t be hard on yourself. You are actually rewiring your blueprint and effectively breaking the chains of generations past so that it will be easier for your daughter, your granddaughter and grandson to do this and live free. So it kind of sounds like boundaries are a great thing, right? I mean, they are certainly better than having NO boundaries for yourself and no line in the sand at all. Right? 64 They are a great stepping-stone, to move PAST the dynamic of having no worth and no power. AND…. You are not done. Let me ask you a question. Do you still ride a bike with training wheels today? Answer genuinely. No. Ok, why not? Really, answer the question out loud… “why don’t you still ride a bike with training wheels today?” Why? Get to the real answer. Don’t just pass judgment like “that would be ridiculous.” And don’t just be aloof like “because I’m a grown woman” Really answer. Why don’t you still use training wheels today? Said differently, if you did, what would be the problem with that? (Not what anyone else thinks, what would be the problem with that FOR YOU?) Whatever your answer…. In some way, shape or form, would riding with training wheels today hold you back from who you really are, from the level you could be at, from the things in life you want to do? Anything like that come up for you? Boundaries are like training wheels. | December 2018 / January 2019