Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2019 Aspire Magazine Final | Page 64

This is a great step forward. Yes, you are correct.
It gives a woman the power to even get used
to the concept that it’s OK for her to establish
a LINE to protect herself. Yes, you read that
correctly. Boundaries are like training wheels when
you learn to ride a bike.
Our lack of worth as women is SO deep into
our wiring that we ALL struggle at times even
just owning that it is OK for us to say NO. That
it’s OK for us to “disappoint” someone else.
That it’s OK for us to “not please” someone.
This is NOT so easy for many women to do.
If it happens to come easy for you, that’s
awesome. Please have compassion for the
BILLIONS of women that struggle just to
BELIEVE within themselves that they have
WORTH and it’s ok for them to say what is
OK and NOT OK for themselves.
It’s actually deep in your blueprint. It’s ok.
It’s just a fact. Deep down, your wiring most
likely says that Dad or Mom or Husband or
Teacher or Brother or Coach or anyone other
than YOU have the power in most situations
and you do NOT.
So, at times, if you struggle to establish a
boundary of what’s ok with you, don’t be
hard on yourself. You are actually rewiring
your blueprint and effectively breaking the
chains of generations past so that it will be
easier for your daughter, your granddaughter
and grandson to do this and live free.
So it kind of sounds like boundaries are a
great thing, right?
I mean, they are certainly better than having
NO boundaries for yourself and no line in the
sand at all. Right?
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They are a great stepping-stone, to move
PAST the dynamic of having no worth and
no power.
AND…. You are not done.
Let me ask you a question. Do you still ride a
bike with training wheels today?
Answer genuinely.
No.
Ok, why not?
Really, answer the question out loud… “why
don’t you still ride a bike with training wheels
today?”
Why?
Get to the real answer. Don’t just pass judgment
like “that would be ridiculous.” And don’t just be
aloof like “because I’m a grown woman”
Really answer. Why don’t you still use
training wheels today? Said differently, if you
did, what would be the problem with that?
(Not what anyone else thinks, what would be
the problem with that FOR YOU?)
Whatever your answer…. In some way,
shape or form, would riding with training
wheels today hold you back from who you
really are, from the level you could be at,
from the things in life you want to do?
Anything like that come up for you?
Boundaries are like training wheels.
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