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filter our perceptions and shape our
responses over long periods of time.
We prioritize family over work, or work
over family, based on deeply held values
and convictions. We construct entire
philosophies of living, belief systems, and
identities that filter our perceptions and
response to reality. Formulating values to
live by is part of resilience: they are part
of a moral compass that guides our life
choices. But locking ourselves into values
that cannot be changed in response to
new experiences is not resilient.
At this stage of new conditioning, you’re
simply training your awareness to realize
that any thought is a product of the
processes of your brain, and thus any
thought can change. Entire patterns of
thought, no matter how complex, can
change. Roles, preference, priorities, and
even entire belief systems can change
over time — and they do.
Excerpted from the book Resilience: Powerful Practices
for Bouncing Back from Disappointment, Difficulty, and
Even Disaster. Copyright ©2018 by Linda Graham.
Printed with permission from New World Library —
www.newworldlibrary.com.
Linda Graham, MFT - Linda Graham, MFT, is the author of
Resilience and also Bouncing Back, the winner of a 2013 Books
for a Better Life Award. She is an experienced psychotherapist
who integrates modern neuroscience, mindfulness practices, and
relational psychology in her international trainings on resilience and
well-being. Visit her online at www.lindagraham-mft.net.
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Linda G
raham,
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