Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2019 Aspire Magazine Final - Page 50

selfless mother. We may believe that the selfless mother is the most giving, nurturing, and loving mother around, and aspire to live up to that standard. The problem is that the selfless mother is a total illusion and feeds our unrealistic expectations of giving. In fact, most selfless mothers are overwhelmed, exhausted, resentful, impatient, and not able to focus on what their child really needs in a situation, as they are perpetually putting out fires living in crisis management mode. things, which can be much harder than giving… Accepting another person’s gift is allowing him to express his feelings for you.” TO START THE PROCESS OF LEARNING TO RECEIVE, I INVITE YOU TO REFLECT ON THE FOLLOWING QUESTIONS: 1.  How can you begin to cultivate the art of receiving in your life today? I have a vision of a much more empowering and realistic heroine – one that has mastered the art of giving and receiving. When we intentionally nurture ourselves consistently we can easily give from a filled up and abundant place and our joyful giving can flow with ease and grace. Imagine what amazing role models we can be in the world when we give from a filled-up cup! But for this to happen we must expand our ability to receive. As Alexander McCall Smith points out, “Gracious acceptance is an art - an art which most never bother to cultivate. We think that we have to learn how to give, but we forget about accepting 50 To answer this question, you may need to assess what areas of your life you are consistently giving more than you are receiving. You may identify certain relationships, roles, responsibilities, jobs, etc. where you give more than you receive. Developing more awareness of where you give and where you receive in your life in general can be incredibly helpful in the process of cultivating the art of receiving into your life. Increasing our self-awareness and bringing mindfulness to our process of giving and receiving is nurturing in and of itself, as it highlights our value and worth. Give yourself permission today to receive in some new area of your life and begin filling up your cup in nurturing and empowering ways. 2.  Where could you accept another person’s gift or help? If you find that you are often giving more help than you are receiving, start accepting help when it is offered. Receiving help will | December 2018 / January 2019