Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Dec/Jan 2019 Aspire Magazine Final - Page 46

“Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. It’s accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.” – Oprah Winfrey Bless and release — before you say anything. It’s difficult, if not impossible, to have a true daring conversation with someone when you are still enmeshed in anger toward them. When you see yourself as a victim or martyr and someone else as somebody who “did something to you.” One of my favorite Oprah-isms is “Forgiveness is giving up the hope that the past could have been any different. It’s accepting the past for what it was, and using this moment and this time to help yourself move forward.” You don’t need to let anybody off the hook for his or her actions, but you need to be fully in the role of protagonist and ready to move forward if you are going to have a productive conversation with the person. 46 Play nicely with the sensation that thoughts of your daring conversation elicit. Daring conversations can be emotionally and physiologically triggering. Nonetheless, they are an important way to step into our moxie. Excerpted from the book Step into Your Moxie: Amplify Your Voice, Visibility, and Influence in the World. Copyright ©2018 by Alexia Vernon. Printed with permission from New World Library — www.newworldlibrary.com. Alexia Vernon - Alexia is the author of Step into Your Moxie. Branded a “Moxie Maven” by President Obama’s White House Office of Public Engagement, she is a sought-after speaking and leadership coach who delivers transformational keynotes and corporate trainings for Fortune 500 companies and other professional groups and organizations, including the United Nations and TEDx. Visit her online at www.alexiavernon.com. www.AspireMAG.net | December 2018 / January 2019