Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2019 Aspire Mag FINAL | Page 74

We are all born with unique temperaments
and biological predispositions and gifts.
Know and celebrate yours. As you get in
touch with and create a life from that “real self,”
you’ll begin to tap into your unique charisma.
Here is a mantra I learned from the brilliant
acting teacher Jack Plotnick: Every person
is interesting when they are real. When you
are your authentic self without social facade
or pretense, none of your energy is bound
up in monitoring yourself and how you are
coming off to others. Instead your full energy
and attention are available in the moment.
You are able to pay attention to the person
you are with. You are free to act and speak
from your whole self, based on real needs,
impulses, and desires. Voilà! Your natural
liveliness, inquisitiveness, quirkiness, and
funniness emerge. You can still be polite
and socially appropriate but in a real way
that is grounded in natural feelings of loving
connection and compassion. This is true
happiness and beauty.
Build on that early identity so that you open
the beautiful facets of yourself like a well-cut
diamond.
Just remember: Every person is interesting
when they are real.
Take chances. Be different. Have fun.
Dance on a table, be silly, sing off-key. Don’t
do anything self-destructive, but catch the
impulse, follow it, and see what you say
or do. Play and let yourself be you. If you
break free like this you will fall in love—with
yourself—in a way that helps others feel
good and free to be real, too.
© Dr. Diana Kirschner. Excerpted from
“Love in 90 Days” by Dr. Diana Kirschner.
Here’s how Margery Williams describes
the Velveteen Rabbit becoming real in her
classic allegory:
He was Real…. That night he was
almost too happy to sleep, and so
much love stirred in his little sawdust
heart that it almost burst. And into his
boot-button eyes, that had long ago
lost their polish, there came a look of
wisdom and beauty.
Being real means you become grounded in
knowing that you are beautifully okay just as
you are. You regain your basic wisdom, which
is grounded in the ability to know what you
really want and need. You are free to feel your
feelings and be in love with life, just as you were
when you were first discovering the world.
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