Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Aug/Sept 2019 Aspire Mag FINAL | Page 66

The invisible force that’s stopping you
from actually showing up in Relationship
Development ® in the moments of your day
and blocking you from getting the results that
you want in your relationship is… BLAME.
When you blame someone else, you’re
saying, “Look, this isn’t my fault and you
need to fix this.”
The moment you throw that finger out and
blame, you are giving all the power in that
situation, to the other person. If the situation
gets better for you or not, it’s now up to them.
You have just rendered yourself powerless.
“Blame is the act of taking all
of your power and willingly
handing it over to the other
person.”
This is why we say it is the invisible force
that’s been keeping you from showing up in
Relationship Development ® in the moments
of your day. Because the minute you blame
the other person, you’re not going to reach
for a Relationship Development ® tool.
If you decide, “They are being disrespectful,
that’s for them to change.” Then, there’s
nothing for you to do!
The minute you blame the other person,
you’re done. You could have all four hundred
tools in our Relationship Development ®
toolbox, but you won’t reach for them
because it’s “their fault.”
Blame comes from casting a judgment that
they were wrong and you were not. And
now you have crossed over into Demand
Relationship™.
Where does this come from?
We were trained, from day one, to blame.
The minute something goes wrong, find
someone to blame. Something happens
in your house, Mom comes into the room
and, what happens? You’re like, “He did it!”
Something happens at school. And you’re
like, “It wasn’t me. I didn’t do it.”
We have literally been conditioned to blame
someone else so that it’s not our fault.
And we can go through our lives doing this
day after day. Until you have the realization
and wake up. Until you see it, blame will
continue to keep you stuck. When these
things are invisible to you, it is totally
wreaking havoc in your personal happiness
and your relationships.
When you see it, though, you can do
something about it!
So, now is the time! It’s time to take your
power back. Stop blaming others!
Stop blaming and start taking personal
responsibility.
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