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place of not disappointing someone else, not
getting in trouble, not getting punished, not
rocking the boat.
But, here’s the deal: The boat needs
to be rocked!
You’re never going to be able to live into the
fullness of the life you’re longing to inhabit
unless you rock that boat. Listen to those
inner whispers that have likely become wails
by now, because you’re not actually giving
voice to your truth. Everything we’re seeking
externally needs to be resolved internally
first. Knowing and owning our worth has
to come from within. And so does our
permission slip to be selfish.
When we don’t take care of ourselves, we’re
more likely to slip into resentment. But if we
can come to another from the place of already
feeling full and filled within, we’re going to
have so much more available to give.
I believe we’re in one long relationship
continuum and that there’s a revolving
door. It’s parents, bosses, lovers, siblings,
children, friends — all the different people
who will activate us so that we can learn what
we came here to learn. I really believe that
we orchestrate exactly what’s happening for
us to learn what we came here to learn.
I lost myself completely in my marriage. It
was a very long time to be away from myself.
Now I have learned how to stay home inside
myself in relationship and this is the part of
my journey I’m most grateful for.
Now that I’m no longer trying to be seen in
a certain light, or abandoning myself to buy
love—or even ‘like’—I find I’m really okay with
disappointing someone or rubbing them the
wrong way, as long as I’m being true to me
and I’m doing it in an honoring and loving
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way with grace. The most important thing is
that I’m being true to me.
So, if I’m experiencing that no one is here
for me then that is really about how I’m not
here for me.
What are you willing to do around the
relationship where you don’t feel free to be
selfish? Are you ready to get in the right
relationship with what’s true for you? Let’s
look at how to live in alignment with your
truth, from that place of inhabiting your truth,
instead of walking on eggshells and making
sure that everything is okay for someone else.
I want you to begin here with this daily
practice: Upon waking, before your eyes are
even open or much movement happens, ask
yourself these two questions:
• W hat’s the most self-loving
action I can take today?
• W hat’s the most self-honoring
choice I can make today?
And then listen. Listen for the answers. And
do them.
Remember, it’s never too late to live
your truth.
Nancy Levin - Nancy Levin is a master coach, radio host and
bestselling author of several books including Permission to Put
Yourself First and Setting Boundaries Will Set You Free (Hay House,
January 2020) who offers in-depth coaching programs and trainings
designed to support clients in making themselves a priority. You can
visit her online at www.nancylevin.com.
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