Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Apr/May 2018 Aspire Magazine Full Issue | Page 86

When you
redefine success,
you’re breaking
free of the values
others have
imposed on you
that no longer
serve.
One thing to be aware of: your inner critic will
try to convince you that those things don’t
matter. Acknowledge her AND mentally
give her a cup of lavender tea to keep her
occupied.
Redefine your success.
Your parents’ ideas of success are different
from your boss’s idea of success which is
also different from your idea of success.
That is if you take the time to redefine what
success means to you.
Also, keep in mind that the conventional
models of success are attainable more
easily by some people more than others.
Comparing yourself unfavorably to those
folks will leave you feeling discouraged and
hopeless.
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Even in this day and age, women have
a steeper hill to climb than men and for
minority women, the hill is even steeper.
Acknowledging this fact is critical to how
you define success. The models held out
for you are not the only ones to strive for.
You can decide what you want to achieve
and how successful you are when you’ve
achieved it. Instead of trying to fit into a
broken model and blaming yourself when
you don’t, create a model that’s grounded in
the powerful knowing of who you are.
Remind yourself that:
● Success is not all about accumulating
material things.
● Your sense of peace, spaciousness, and
fulfillment is wealth.
● Self-care is important and valuable to
nourish your soul.
Redefining success means finding different
and unique situations to reward yourself.
In other words, when you exercise or
meditate in the morning, do you consider
this a success? When you follow through
with dinner plans with an old friend, do you
congratulate yourself for getting out of the
house? When you complete simple tasks like
washing the dishes and watering the plants,
do you tell yourself that this is valuable time
well spent?
Rewarding yourself in these types of
situations is a reminder that sometimes the
little things in life are our biggest successes.
How you feel about success is personal to
you. When you redefine success, you’re
breaking free of the values others have
imposed on you that no longer serve.
You’re demonstrating your power to decide
for yourself.