Aspire Magazine: Inspiration for a Woman's Soul.(TM) Apr/May 2018 Aspire Magazine Full Issue | Page 22

THE CRACK IN YOUR HEART
HAS MEANING AND PURPOSE.
IT ALLOWS FOR A GOLDEN
LIGHT TO COME THROUGH TO
REVEAL ALL THAT YOU HAVE
BEEN HIDING, IGNORING, OR
RUNNING FROM.
Women are half of their relationship’s
equation. What our partners do or not
shouldn’t control our healing process. We
own it. That’s the only way to freedom.
What happened when you decided to focus
on yourself and healing your wounds?
Once I made that decision, a deep sense
of peace settled over me. The anxiety I
carried which came from my attachment to
saving my marriage and fixing my husband
evaporated. A seed was planted that I didn’t
want another woman to feel the way I felt, to
lose faith, and close down her heart forever.
YOUR BOOK’S SUBTITLE IS “EMBRACING
HEARTACHE AND BETRAYAL AS
GATEWAYS TO UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.”
WHAT’S ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THAT
GATEWAY?
First, courage is required to go through the
passage. On one side is pain, victimhood,
and resentment and on the other is living life
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as a whole divine feminine being. There’s
no way around—you have to go through
and accept what you’ve experienced, feel
it deeply, and know that the pain offers an
opportunity to learn.
LOOKING BACK TO BEFORE THE
BETRAYAL, WHAT DO YOU SEE?
When I looked deep within myself, I saw
that I had denied my intuition, and I had
overlooked red flags. I had dismissed them
because I didn’t want to upset the apple
cart. I’m sure many women reading this can
relate. From the conversations I’ve had this
was a common thread.
WAS PART OF YOUR HEALING PROCESS
FORGIVENESS OF AND HAVING
COMPASSION FOR YOUR EX-HUSBAND?
Yes, I understood my ex-husband was also in
pain. Men who cheat on or betray their wives
don’t look elsewhere for companionship,
love, or sex because of the woman. They act
out because there’s a void within themselves.
If they were healthy and whole, they wouldn’t
betray anyone.
You’re not condoning anyone’s behavior, but
rather looking at it from a spiritual perspective
and seeing that his wounds are his.
WHAT HAPPENED AS YOU
ACKNOWLEDGED YOUR GRIEF?
From my deep grief followed by intense
healing came an understanding that there