I’ve cooked on several occasions for
Princess and, when she was with us, for
Little A. I’ve served them too as it
pleasures me to do so.
A few weeks ago Princess cooked for
the first time for us both. She asked for
her collar and told me not to enter the
kitchen. I sat at my computer and
wrote and watched my love being busy
in this space new to her.
It made me so happy. Not for the
stereotypic role-play but because it felt
comfy and familiar.
Princess served me an excellent chili
con carne and told me she loves
preparing dinner and serving me.
One could see this as an act of D/s yet I
think it is simply common practice in
most relations.
Helping Princess out with her agenda or
assisting her choosing a GPS makes me
a good and helpful partner. Listening to
her and comforting Princess does not
mean I am her Dom. I am simply her
partner. We are supposed to help
support and motivate each other. That
is what relations are about.
I guess almost every D/s relation, to the
outside world, looks like any other
relation.
The differences lie much deeper and
are less tangible for the public.
So for Princess and I D/s is a just an
extra albeit intense layer on a normal
and close relationship.
We use whips, clamps, bondage rope
and hot wax amongst other things
during our love play. Princess crawls for
me or eats out of a bowl at my
command. I decorate her beautiful
body with bite marks and give her
crimson red butt cheeks.
The combination of pain and pleasure
brings Princess to mind-blowing
orgasms.
All the above and the fact we trust each
other completely and communicate the
way we do, makes our relations better
and more intense.
That I do believe.
I also believe a collar can be important
in a D/s relation yet its meaning or
importance differs depending of the
type of D/s.
Princess did not earn her collar and we
did not hold a collaring ceremony.
When we play I collar Princess, a
symbol of her submission. It helps her
shift her mindset too.
At my place she likes to sleep wearing
her collar.
Princess always wears her collar when
we play outdoors; at parties or at the
Fetish Café.
She wants everybody to know she is
owned and a submissive. It makes her
proud, feel safe and under the
protection of me, her Dom.
Has a collar changed or added
something valuable to our relation?
Not really.
BDSM has though and in so many ways
added to the depth, intensity and
beauty of what Princess and I live.