Art of Dying Volume II - Page 18

“ GARTH CALLAGHAN I’ve stopped thinking about how the world impacts me or I impact the world because it's too big. 18 | ART OF DYING Most people probably don't start thinking about their own mortality until much later in life. At that point they don't have the ability to change or to focus on the relationships that matter. One of the things I always have to remind people of is that I started writing napkin notes to my daughter for five or six years before my first cancer diagnosis. I recognized that there was this need to have more interaction and a better relationship with my daughter. If my doctors came to me and said, "By the way Garth we made a mistake. You don't have cancer anymore. Go off treatment, do whatever," I wouldn't change how I'm going to live the rest of my life. I recognize that my physical being is a really short time. Any one of us can die tomorrow or this afternoon. I’ve stopped thinking about how the world impacts me or how I impact the world because it's too big. I just need to share our story and write a note to Emma every day and everything else is going to take care of itself. I value the privilege to share our story. I share the interactions that Emma and I have had and how the notes have impacted our life. Then I let it be. People can take our story and hopefully use it to impact their own lives. I've had to mature and come to recognize that I am mortal like everybody else on the planet. But I just have it kind of up front and center in my life. On top of that, I still need to, every day, be a husband and a dad. The past few years everything about me has changed. There was a time when H\ۉ\]X[KY[[K܂[[[ۘ[H[HXKHXYHHۜ[\X\[ۂ[]^HH]] H\[^\[[X]X] H\XHڙX][H]\K]\š[\X[H[\XY]^H[Z[KX]\BH\XX[H]Y[Hو[Z[H[\X[ۜ]X]\HHY\YوX]\[YK