IN & OUT
Don’t Let
The Phases
Get To You!
So you just told your parents that you’re
gay, let the phases begin.. Here’s what to
look forward to and how to deal.
DENIAL
What Happens: Right now your parents are
telling you that your not gay and hope that
by helping out you will change.
Getting Passed It: Explain to them that
there is no changing you. It’s who you are
and always have been. It just took some time
for you to put two and two together. Give
them time to mentally process the situation.
Anger
What Happens: They blame themselves
for not being a better parent and ask why it
happened to them.
Getting Passed It: It’s not your fault and
it’s not theirs. It how you feel and view the
same sex. There is no right way to parent a
child. If so, all adults would come out the
same. So no one is to blame.
Bargaining
What Happens: There is a point in the conversation where they want you to date girls
and give it a chance. “You haven’t met the
right girl.”
Getting Passed It: They are just thinking
that it’s peer pressure or what everybody is
saying about you. It’s not, don’t put yourself in that position. Explain to them that it
wouldn’t be fair for you and the girls you go
on dates with. Nobody should be used as a
test subject.
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