in a comfortable way (maybe over
dinner or coffee) and try and find a
neutral ground where he isn’t going
to feel threatened. It’s important to
level the playing field so that neither
of you can make the other feel intimidated. I want you to tell your partner
that you understand how he’s been
feeling, but that you are also feeling
very neglected or somewhat lacking
in what you need sexually. Tell him
how much you care about him and
enjoy being in that moment with
him. After you have said your peace,
shut up and listen. Hear him out, and
then the both of you can move on
from there.
Compromise
It’s often said that at the end of
negotiating, neither party ever gets
everything they want, and you need
to realize that going in. So, like in all
relationships, you must make changes. If you want sex once a week and
he likes it maybe once or twice a
month, maybe you two can try for
every other week. You’re still getting
more than you were getting before
and he doesn’t feel too overwhelmed
by your oversexed cravings.
Change the Way
You Have Sex
Think about the way in which you
both have sex. Are you always doing
it in the evenings when both of you
have gotten off work and you’re still
full steam ahead, and he is ready for
sleep? Do you do it the same way
every time (lets be honest missionary
is boring)? It sounds like it is time
for a change. What you need to do is
try and have sex when it first enters
your mind. Get a little spontaneous.
If you’re at a gathering and your
partner is looking sexy and getting
you going, pull him away!
Get home and get busy. You
both need to shake things up once in
a while to keep things exciting and
not get stale. That makes for a very
healthy sex life. So, I want you both
to think about what you’ve always
done and make appropriate changes
within your comfort zones.
Stress brought on by this
tough economy could be one culprit
that’s inhibiting male desire. Porn
can make a mans libido not have any
mojo for you. Sounds depressing, but
it’s normal. Make it habit to show
him that he can come to you to blow
off some steam or stress. If you have
talked to him and established that
there is no other issues in the relationship, you are probably just deing
with an everyay gap in the sexual
desire department and just needs a
little TLC. It will get back to were
you guys should be.
Change the
Meaning of “Sex”
Sex can be all kinds of things. You
don’t have to go as far as penetration
anymore for an act to be considered
sex. (We live in a very freaky world
now, after all!) This comes along
with being spontaneous. We all know
that screwing can take planning and
preparation (especially if you’re a
bottom) and after some time one of
you could feel tired. It’s important
that you both think outside the box
and know that you have other options of pleasing each other.
Maybe you could randomly
blow him on a long car ride. One of
you could try masturbating while
the other makes out or teases him.
Keep in mind too that sex doesn’t
always have to be one long marathon
either so spontaneous acts like these
can still be hot and satisfy both of
your thirsts without taking too much
of your time or energies. Sex also
doesn’t have to require one or both
of you achieve an orgasm (sometimes it’s just fun!). Why is it such
a bad thing if no one gets off? You
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45%
of readers
say they’ve
wanted
more sex
than their
partner
did.
both are enjoying each other’s bodies
and having a great time. It’s not like
you’re playing a game and whoever
gets off wins. Be creative, and have
no expecations.
Low desire in men is nothing
new, but other men who feel empowered enough to speak up about their
sexual appetites are an emerging
breed. On the other side men are aslo
being encouraged to get in touch
with their feelings, and may be some
of those include, “hey, I just don’t
feel like having sex.”
Don’t Stress Out
You both just need to be open to
talking and exploring each other and
new things. A relationship is about
constant growth and it’s important
that each of you take this journey
together, rather than calling it quits.
Throwing in the towel is only ever
an option when the other party is
insensitive and unwavering. As a
wise Sweet Brown once said,”Ain’t
nobody got time for that!”.
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