When
You
Want
More
Sex
Than
He
Does
By: Kurt Thigpen
It is a truth universally acknowledged
that men are sex-crazed animals. So
when your guy’s libido is more lukewarm
tan, red-hot, you wonder what’s wrong
with him. And what’s wrong with you.
I
I’m sure most of you have encountered this
problem at least once in your dating lives.
Whether you’re in a long-term relationship,
or not, there’s usually someone in the relationship who wants to do it more and that
can create an imbalance in the playing field!
In my experience it leads to overanalyzing every little thing the other person
says or does. Thoughts start swarming
your head like,”Did I upset him?” “Does
he not find me attractive anymore?”. These
thoughts can tear you apart on the inside and
seriously damage your self esteem, as well
as take a large toll on your relationship. This
can lead to a lot of resentment towards the
other person (I’m looking at you Passive
Aggressive Patricks out there).
There are a lot of scenarios out there
I know you guys have been through or are
currently going through. Maybe your sexual
life is at an all-out stand still. The fences are
up, and you have no idea how you’re going
to negotiate your way in. Or, maybe you just
aren’t getting enough of it. Once every couple of weeks doesn’t exactly fit your fancy
and you wish he’d let you rip his pants off
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more.
So, the big question is, what do you
do about it? The “I’m tired” excuse just
isn’t cutting it for you anymore and if he
makes one more excuse you’re going to
throw all his shit out the front door. Am I
right!? (Maybe not so extreme, but you may
feel angry and hurt of course.) Hopefully in
this article you will find some helpful tips
and not end up killing your boyfriend in his
sleep.
Communicate
I’m sure at this point you’ve at least asked
one time if anything is wrong when denied
sex and your guy has shrugged his lack
of enthusiasm off on work, family, or the
chronic migraine. It’s important that you
should know that asking is not communicating your needs. Asking more than one or
two times can even make your partner feel
like they’re being henpecked and, considering he’s not interested in being pecked, I’d
take another approach.
You need to sit your partner down