GET INTO AN
ORGASIMIC
STATE OF MIND
If an orgasm just isn’t happening,
you’ll need to play a few Jedi mind
tricks with yourself before your
clothes come off. We all have different hang-ups. So try all these tricks
to narrow down what works best for
you.
• Read or watch some sexy stuff.
Whether you are turned on by erotica, porn, a hot indie band (try The
xx), or Brian Williams reading the
news (hey, different strokes), partake
in that activity before engaging in
sexytime. You want to go into sex already experiencing that tingly feeling
in your stomach rather than hoping
your hookups provides the tingles.
• Indulge a fantasy.
Think about a hot scenario before
and yes, during, sex. (Some men
worry this is somehow wrong, like
mental cheating, it’s not.) So go
ahead, play sexy little movies in
your mind about what ever turns
you on—a hot moment you had last
year, Gosling, or a vision of what’s
to come.
• Eliminate distractions.
Turn off your phone...or the lights
if you think you’re going to be self
conscious about your body. You
want to be in the moment, not thinking about your chest or how much
weight you have gained.
• Take a shower.
All the steam will set the scene...and
you won’t be lying there worrying
about how you taste or smell when
you should be focusing on your
climax.
• Stoping thinking about him.
Let him know you want to trade off
nights when it’s all about you and
other nights when you can return
the favor. You may just hit a rhythm
where you’re in sync with each other
and every night is a home run for the
both of you!
• Don’t freak out if it doesn’t feel
like it’s going to happen.
On average, it takes a man 20 mins
to have direct stimulation to climax.
It’s all normal if some men have a
shorter time than others. It’s common to reach a plateau phase, when
you’re turned on but feel like you’ve
stalled. Don’t lose hope. Stick with
what got you to that point and you
will likely get there. If you don’t you
probably will next time.
HOLD
HIS HIPS
Guys generally have se
x
using an in-and-out th
rusting
motion, which isn’t ide
al for you.
You’re going to have a
much better
shot if you grab his bu
tt, hold him
deep inside you, and en
courage
him to move in a circu
lar
motion. This helps to ke
ep
direct pressure on
your g-spot.
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