Talk to Tamara
Tamara, the relationship whisperer, is like a walking instruction manual for all of your love, dating.
and relationship questions. Ask her your burning questions and she’ll guide you in the
direction that is right for you. To ask your questions go to eydismedia.com’s home page
and click on Tamara’s picture, under our “Let’s Talk” section.
Dear Not Happy,
Wow, you are dealing with three major
things all at once: a broken heart, loneliness
and unhappiness. I’d like to address each
one separately:
YOUR BROKEN HEART
by Tamara Green
I’m so sorry that you are hurting. Being left
for someone else is tremendously painful.
I’m actually very glad to hear that you are
looking to date in spite of how you feel. One
of the best remedies for a broken heart is
getting out there and dating again. Being
open to loving someone else is key for
healing. Eventually, you’ll find the man who
will love you so much more than that guy
ever did.
YOUR LONELINESS
Loneliness stems from the meaning that you
are giving to being alone, or in your case,
even being with others. In other words, it’s
a judgment that you are making about not
being in a relationship right now.
TAMARA’S QUOTE
OF THE MONTH
“The best cure for
fear is to love the
one who is
experiencing it.”
—Tamara Green, LCSW
Dear Tamara,
As a single woman, I keep hearing and reading that it’s important
to “be happy” since men are attracted to happy. But I’m not
happy. I’m lonely. Even with a full social calendar, I’m lonely.
I just want to be with this one guy who left me for another
woman. When we were together, I was super happy, but he chose
someone else over me. My heart has been broken, but I know it’s
time to let him go and date other men. So my question is, how do
I pretend to be happy when I’m not?
Not Happy
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I once took a course called “Access
Consciousness.” The founder, Gary Douglas,
was talking about turning judgment, which
doesn’t feel good, into awareness, which
feels very good, by asking a conscious
question. Before I give you the question,
however, please promise yourself that you
will not answer this question, but only ask
it. The intention of asking this question is
to lead you F