It is human nature to grow and develop relationships with other human beings. We thrive off of love and connection to others. We always tell ourselves that we can’t imagine life without certain people, and then suddenly that connection disappears.
Do remember that really close friend you had in high school? You did everything with them. They knew you so well and you knew everything about them. That relationship meant so much to you because they stood by your side through all your hardships in growing up and lived through all of the best memories from those days.
Are you still close to that person today? Do you even talk to that person anymore? It is too often we lose these types of friends.
As we move through the stages of life we experience the feeling of lose when it comes to many of these valuable relationships, whether it be family, significant others, or really good friends. Sometimes relationships fail from life changes or they fail from disagreements between one another.
When a relationship ends it is so easy for us to place blame on other people. In this case, blame comes from fear. We are afraid the other person won’t like our new job, our new friends, the town we live in, who we choose to date, who we choose to be friends with. Then once they are gone we are afraid to repair the broken pieces because we are afraid that the other person does not care to be a part of our life anymore.
Blame also comes from stubbornness. We are too stubborn to believe that we may be the one that is actually at fault. We believe we have moved on to “bigger and better” things.
Deep down inside we know we regret not having that person around any longer, even if life has driven you opposite directions. We wish to keep that connection there or to at least end on good terms.
Having those relationships back give so much more meaning to life. This is the point where you decide go back and change how things ended.
Being that it is a tough pill to swallow, it will most definitely pay off. It is time to become selfless. Reach out for guidance whether it be from faith or current friends and family because they are the ones that will understand your ways and will be able to help you through the repairing process.
Fixing relationships are quite simple. Think about the things that can change your mind about someone. Even if they really truly hurt you and all they have to say is “I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you”, it changes the whole dynamic of you being mad at them. If the falling out wasn’t your fault, be the one to reach out and say “I’m sorry for…” and it can quite literally be anything. Something to show you are trying. Saying a simple sorry is the excellent way to start an entire conversation and moving forward into working out issues.
Even if it doesn’t work, we know we tried and we can move onward with our lives, without that relationship holding us back. By saying sorry we are only helping ourselves to become better people and learn how to build stronger relationships for the future.