AFIYA Magazine Jan/Feb | Page 27

INSPIRATION The Notion of Self-Worth By FELICIA S.W. THOMAS author, attorney and editor. I’m a member of a very large and quirky family. The raggedy car I drive can’t tell anyone those things. My car is old. It’s on its last tires. It’s falling apart and becoming an eyesore. But it’s paid for. It gets me from A to B, and on a good day, C, and it’s paid for. Sure, my car is such a wreck that a thief would break into it to leave me a sympathy card. So what! What my car is not is a measure of my qualities as a human being. It cannot. The ticket price of a brand new 2014 luxury vehicle starts somewhere around $38,200.00. One year later, its worth is less than half. A high-end designer blouse might fetch 20% of its value a year later, at a consignment shop or a single dollar bill at a garage sale. Today, a first-time, out-of-the-box, sixty-inch flat screen with all the bells and whistles can be purchased for pennies on the dollar on eBay. Things depreciate. They lose their value after the passage of time. Despite this fact, so many people are intent upon defining their own self-worth by the things they own. Possession of a mansion, a luxury car or the trendiest attire seems to be the criteria for a quality person, an important person, a person of status. I have a problem with that. I have a problem with linking who I am to what I live in or what I drive or what I wear. I’ve encountered people who don’t know me but are quick to make assumptions about me because of the tangible things they see around me. They’re missing the big picture. In my opinion, people who lust for brand named clothing (I once heard a woman refer to herself as a “brand whore”—that’s another article for another day) and can’t live without the latest smart phone, have a deep, psychological need to be liked. They must be well-thought of in the eyes of another. They need a status symbol with a high dollar figure to feel good about themselves. Frankly, I don’t give a damn if peopl