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her , “ What was the price of the saree you saw ?” she says , “ 2,200 rupees , not much .” Then he replies , “ You say only 2,200 , but where can I get such money right now ? Right now I have a deficit . I would buy it for you if it were for 200-300 , but you say it is for 2,200 !” So , she gets upset and begins to sulk . Now what kind of state arises ? He even thinks in his mind , ‘ It would have been better if had I never gotten married !’ What good does it do to regret getting married ? Hence , such are the miseries .
Questioner : Are you saying that the wife should be given the 2,200 rupees saree ?
Dadashri : To buy it or not depends upon you . If she sulks and every night says , “ I will not cook ,” then what will you do ? From where will you get a cook ? So you will have to buy it even if you have to borrow the money , will you not ?
You should make the situation such that she , herself , would not want to buy the saree . Suppose you earn 8,000 rupees a month , you should keep 1,000 rupees for your expenses . Would she be likely to ask , “ Will you buy the saree for me ?” if you were to give the remaining 7,000 rupees to her ? On the contrary , you can even jest with her , “ That saree is nice , why don ’ t you buy it ?” She has to manage it ! But actually , she pressures you when you are the one managing [ the finances ]. I learnt this art before I attained Gnan . Thereafter , I became a Gnani . I attained Gnan after I discovered this art ! Now tell me , it ’ s because one doesn ’ t have this art that all these miseries exist , don ’ t they ? What do you think ?
Questioner : Yes , that is correct . Dadashri : Did you understand this ? The fault is