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Adjust Everywhere
you not end up saying something hurtful sometimes? After
speaking, you immediately realize that you made a mistake.
You will not refrain from knowing, but at that time, you fail
to go back and adjust things. You should immediately go to
him and tell him, “Dear friend, I happened to speak harshly
earlier, it was a mistake. So please forgive me.” When you
do this, it becomes adjusted. Is there any problem in this?
Questioner: No, no problem whatsoever.
Adjustment can be Taken Everywhere
Questioner: Oftentimes it happens that I have to
adjust with two people at the same time, over the same
issue. Then, at that time, how can I manage everything?
Dadashri: You can take it [the adjustment] with both.
Oh, if you had to take it with seven people, you would
still be able to take it. If one of them asks, “What did you
plan for me?” Then you would answer, “Yes, I will do as
you said.” You should say the same to the other person, “I
will do as you say.” Nothing is going to happen outside
of vyavasthit. Therefore, any which way, do not start a
quarrel. Adjustment is the key. With ‘yes’ there is freedom.
Even if you say ‘yes’ to someone, nothing is going to
happen outside of vyavasthit. But if you say no, then you
invite a lot of problems!
If a husband and wife both make a firm resolve that,
‘I want to adjust,’ then both will find a solution. If he or
she insists a lot, then you should adjust, and you will have
the solution. One man’s arm was hurting but he did not
tell anyone else. He adjusted by massaging it with his
other hand! When you adjust in this way, you will find a
solution. If you do not adjust everywhere, everyone will
go mad. It is because you have kept harassing others that
you have gone mad. If you provoke a dog once, twice, or