Adjust Everywhere
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This is Kaliyug! Just look at the environment! Therefore,
when the wife says, “You are worthless,” then you should
reply, “Very well.”
Adjust With Difficult People
Questioner: I have to interact in the world, so
adjustments should not be only one-sided, should they?
Dadashri: [Ideal] Worldly interactions are referred
to those in which one adjusts such that even the neighbors
proclaim, “Every household has disputes, but this household
does not have any disputes.” Such a person’s worldly
interactions are considered the best. It is indeed with those
whom you do not get along with, that you need to develop
the strength [to adjust]. With those that you get along with,
the strength already exists there. To not get along is actually
a weakness. Why do I get along with everyone? Strength
increases and weaknesses break according to the number
of adjustments one takes. Real understanding will only set
in once all wrong understanding is locked out.
Everyone adjusts with people who are soft, but when
one is able to adjust with obstinate, strong, strict, and all
other sorts of people, that is when his work will be
accomplished! No matter how unscrupulous a person may
be, if you know how to adjust without losing your cool,
then that is what is useful! It will not do if you get upset.
Nothing in this world will ‘fit’ [adjust] to you. However,
if you ‘fit’ to it, then this world is good; otherwise if you
make it ‘fit’ to you, then this world will be obstinate. So,
adjust everywhere. If you ‘fit’ to it, then there is no problem.
Don’t See Law, Settle
The Gnani will adjust to the other person even if
that person is obstinate. If one were to observe the Gnani