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Adjust Everywhere
husband and wife, if one keeps tearing things apart, then
the other should patch things back together; only then will
the relationship sustain, and peace prevail. People will refer
to the one who does not adjust as crazy. [In matters where]
The truth is relative, there is no need for insistence (aagrah)
or stubbornness whatsoever. Who can be referred to as a
human? [The one who is] Everywhere adjustable! One
should also adjust with a thief.
Should You Improve Her or Adjust?
If you were to adjust to the other person in every
aspect, then things would become so straightforward! What
are you going to take with you [when you die]? Someone
may say, “Straighten her out.” Hey, if you try to straighten
her out, then you will end up becoming crooked. Therefore,
do not try to straighten out your wife; no matter how she
is, tell her that she is correct. It would be a different matter
if you were going to maintain a relationship with her life
after life, but who knows where she will be in her next life?
You will both die at different times, and your karmas are
different! There is nothing to give and nothing to take. Who
knows to whom she will go [in her next life] when she
leaves from here? You may manage to improve her and, in
her next life, she will end up becoming someone else’s wife!
Therefore, do not try to straighten her out. She too,
should not try to straighten you out. Whatever you have is
as good as gold. No one’s prakruti can ever straighten out.
A dog’s tail will always remain crooked. Therefore, you
should tread with caution. Let her be however she may be;
adjust everywhere.
Wife is a Counterweight
Questioner: I try very hard to adjust with my wife,
but I am not able to do so.