Adjust Everywhere
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Dadashri: Is that so? Is it to divide possessions?
What is there to divide with your wife? The assets are joint.
Questioner: The husband wants to eat a sweet dish,
but the wife makes a simple dish consisting of rice with
lentils instead. So, that is why quarrels happen.
Dadashri: So then, after quarreling, would he get the
sweet dish? Ultimately, he will surely have to eat the rice
and lentils.
Questioner: Then he orders a pizza from a restaurant.
Dadashri: Is that so? So, he gets neither that [the sweet
dish] nor this [the rice and lentils]. Instead, the pizza arrives,
doesn’t it? But he certainly missed out on that [the sweet
dish]. Instead, he should have told his wife, “Prepare whatever
is convenient for you.” She will also have that intent someday,
won’t she? Will she not eat the same food? So, you should
tell her, “Prepare whatever is convenient for you.” So, she
will say, “No, I want to prepare whatever is pleasing to you.”
At that time, you should tell her, “Make the sweet dish.” But
if you had told her to make the sweet dish from the beginning,
then she would have said, “No, I am going to make rice and
lentils.” She would speak obstinately.
Questioner: What solutions do you have to stop this
type of divisiveness due to difference of opinion?
Dadashri: I am showing you the way to ‘adjust
everywhere.’ If she tells you, “I want to make rice and
lentils,” then you should adjust. And if you tell her, “No,
we are to go out right now. I want to go to satsang,’ then
she should adjust. Whoever speaks first, the other person
should adjust to that.
Questioner: Then there will be a fight to be the first
to speak.