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The Vine Happiness Starts with You : By Frank Buck As the grass turns green, the leaves return to the trees and summer sounds fill the air we all feel happier. Why is it, that a change of season can change our mood in such a way? That happy feeling is inside all of us and exists during every season, if we know where to look for it. It’s a seed deep inside us, waiting for a warm rain, some sunshine or just some simple patience to get it to sprout. When we feel good about ourselves we aren’t caring about what others think. True happiness flows from performing good with continuity throughout a lifetime. Is happiness pleasure, honor, wealth, knowledge or something else? For Aristotle, the great philosopher, happiness was not seen as an immediate result, for that would be a momentary pleasure. It must be seen as an end result, achieved only as a long-term goal. He concludes that to be happy, we must be just, virtuous and morally right. Happiness is the way you think about yourself and you choosing what you prefer rather than following the encouragement of others. It’s not what you have, it’s what you think. And in the words of Colleen Laukka,” Happiness is living in the energy of an open heart and freely sharing its effervescence with all.” We all know someone that just never seems happy but doesn’t every one of us deserve happiness? In the pursuit of our happiness we cannot lose sight of others that are on the journey with us. We need to be aware of who we are touching and what is being sown. Always remember to smile, laugh be kind and show respect to yourself and others. People may not remem- ber what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel. Everybody is special. Make those around you feel it and your own life becomes more enriched. We need to pay attention to the little things. It’s been said to live simply, but love generously! Everyone loves a hug, so do it, tomorrow might be too late. If you love someone, tell them today. Work to create the life that feels right to you, not the one that looks right to everyone else. It’s the dream no one can see but you. The future is yours to create and its often great challenges that make life interest- ing, but overcoming them makes life meaningful. As we grow older and wiser, we realize what we really need and what needs to be left behind. Try not to make that perfect utopic life and forget to live life and to love. Happiness, it starts with you. People may not remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel. 50