4guys Sept 2016 issue #1 - Page 12

ONLINE ADDICT IS SOCIAL MEDIA TAKING OVER YOUR LIFE? I t is now easier than ever to keep in contact with friends and family, post photos, share information and chat on sites like facebook, Google+, Snapchat, Twitter and Instagram. Dating apps like Grindr, Scruff, Pink Sofa and many others - allow us to easily find someone to chat with, hook up with on any night of the week or seek that illusive meaningful relationship. They offer a wide spectrum of choice without having to venture out - and a lot of advance information on potential partners, all fed to us in a convenient way. much attention to their screens instead of the boundless world that’s literally in front of them. Each minute you spend overly focusing on your smart phone, ipad or computer is a minute lost savouring the very awesome present. On the business front, the professional networking side LinkedIn allows users to request introductions to business people who are known to their contracts. The potential of this enhanced connectivity is huge; whereas once you would be left sifting through business cards after a network event, trying to remember details about each person, you can now easily look up connections’s credentials and business interests on their social media profile. It does seem on the surface the social media websites - personal and business - and dating apps have lots of fantastic advantages and can improve your life if used mindfully, but are they for everyone and are they making many of us lazy and possibly even depressed? HERE ARE TEN SIGNS THAT SOCIAL MEDIA IS A PROBLEM FOR YOU... If you go deeper do you feel more connected or in fact alienated after hanging out on Facebook and Grindr for hours on end? Have you actually converted those hours on LinkedIn into cash or have you just used it as a distraction from the things that really need to be done in your business? A recent review of some seventy-five studies concluded that “users of Facebook do not differ in most personality traits from nonusers of Facebook.” But, somehow, the internet seems to make them feel more alienated. An analysis of forty studies also confirmed the trend: Internet use had a significant detrimental effect on overall well-being. In a UK study last year on social media’s effects on self-esteem and anxiety, it was reported that 50% of their participants said that their “use of social networks like Facebook and Twitter make their lives worse.” In particular, participants noted that their self-esteem suffers when they compare their own accomplishments to those of their online friends. In addition to confidence issues, two-thirds claimed they find it difficult to fully relax or sleep after spending time on social networks. A quarter cited work or relationship difficulties due to online confrontations. And more than half say they feel “worried or uncomfortable” a times they are unable to access their Facebook account, mobile apps or email accounts. Study after study has revealed that people are now more likely to be engaging in compulsive internet use, and are at an increasing risk of anxiety, depression and isolation as they obsessively log in and out. Nomophobia: The fear of being out of mobile phone contact. 1. You have more communication that people on social media sites and mobile apps than you do in real life. 2. You regularly find yourself together with friends, all accessing your own social media sites instead of actually talking with reach other. 3. Checking social media websites or mobile apps is the first thing you do in the morning and your constantly checking in all day and into the late evening. 4. You’ve cur short a real-world conversation to check Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, Grindr, Scruff, or Pink Sofa. 5. You make important announcements about your life online before personally telling those closest to you. Have you ever revealed something deeply personal on social media that you’ve regretted later? 6. You’ve herd some variation on the words “I wish you would stop chatting online and spend time with me.” You’re often accessing your phone apps while in social situations. 7. You regularly choose to chat online rather than to pick up the phone and actually talk with someone or actually visit with them! 8. The number of likes and/or comments you get on a post is important - you’re constantly checking in. We live in a generation that’s tech-crazy and extremely distracted. Social Media and much online activity blurs the lines of reality and many people wrongly believe it’s a viable alternative to real, personal interaction. 9. Are you obsessed with how many ‘friends’ you have or don’t have. Most of your online friend’s you never actually meet? Of course we can’t ignore the fantastic contributions of technology to awareness and connectivity, but theres a serious disconnect when people start paying too 10. You post only (or mostly only) selfies. 12 4GUYS.CA