4 GUYS Oct 2016 issue October 2016 issue #2 for 4 Guys Magazine | Page 42

SLUT: HOW MANY MEN IS TOO MANY?

SEX AND RELATIONSHIPS

How many guys have you had sex
with? 1? 10? 100? 1,000? Is it a list
as short as a tweet or as long as an
encyclopedia? The gay scene has
countless opportunities for men
to connect with other men for sex,
but what’s the acceptable number
of sexual partners to have?

Let’s start with some sexy
statistics. Back in 2010, The Euro
MSM Internet Survey group (EMIS)
asked gay men and men who have
sex with men what they got up to
sexually. The results showed a lot of
variation in terms of how many guys
you bonked within the last year. Just
over half of the guys who took part
in the survey had between one and
five partners, but on the other hand
nearly a third had more than ten sexual partners, with 5% of men having
more than 50. Just for fun, we asked

FS magazine readers if they thought
their magic number was an acceptable number of men to have sex with.
The vast majority (89%) of those
who replied said they’d had sex with
an acceptable number of men. Just
11% of the men who replied to us
considers themselves sluts. So what
makes a gay man a slut? Let’s find
out.
“Gay men enjoy sex,” says Paul
from London. “Being a slut is not
a numbers game, it’s about how
you behave.” So what defines a
slut?

“I don’t know that there’s
necessarily a number of partners that
makes someone a slut. My sense is
that it’s more about being indiscriminate about quantity and quality,”
adds Gilles from North Yorkshire.

“The number of sexual partners does
not influence whether someone is a
slut or not,” agrees Eric from Belfast.
“I would define it as sleazy behaviour,
like sleeping around when in a relationship that’s meant to be monogamous.” “My definition of a slut
would be someone who has sex just
for the sake of having sex, whether
they fancy a guy or not, says Richard
from Cardiff. “It’s not the number
that defines a slut, it has more to do
with the attitude,” agrees Justin from
London. “Someone who sleeps
around casually with people they
have little sexual interest in is probably more of a slut than someone
who has many partners but who
finds all of his partners attractive.”
“To me, a slut is someone who will
literally fuck anyone or anything at
any time,” says Zio from Bristol. “A
slut is the guy who gives someone a
blowjob in the nightclub toilet then
goes home with a different guy. A
slut is the guy who hangs out in saunas or cottaging spots with his arse
in the air waiting for the next dick to
come along and fill him. A slut is the
guy who is always seeking sex and
talking about his sexual exploits –
when told ‘no’, they either keep pushing as if they’re going to change the
other guy’s mind, or they turn into a
bitch and suggest that you must be
frigid for not wanting to sleep with
them.” Altogether, most guys who
replied to us said that being a slut
doesn’t relate to the number of guys
you’ve had sex with: it’s more about
attitude-- although some believe the
term has no meaning or definition at
all on the gay scene.

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