To withhold our words is just as bad or worse than a father who speaks death to his children. Often fathers start out with a positive spoken message but we can become distracted by work, bills, etc. But also, I think we fail to balance discipline with affirmation. If most of our words are correcting, training and scolding, then we can create emotional distance. Bridge the gap with a spoken message of unconditional love and acceptance.
Words not only have the power to create something special in our children, words have the power to draw out potential. We bring out the best in those we bless. Remember that “The Blessing” provides children with the foundation for identity, validation, affirmation, and a sense of purpose. You don’t wait for a ceremony to be a blessing to your child. To quote Trent & Smalley, “You never know what small act of love will be the one that your children, spouse, or friends remember as the most significant time you blessed them.” It is a father’s intentional, consistent, positive, everyday actions and attitude that communicate the blessing. Remember, it is never too late.
Dr. Onorio Chaparro
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